have that come out of our mouths. Well guess what? Our thoughts have
power also. If our thoughts are accompanied with a strong emotion (fear,
anger, worry, doubt), that thought can become reality.
Surely, if we think back on the past, we can remember a time when we
thought a certain thing and then it happened just like we thought it would.
Then we say "See I knew that was going to happen". When in reality, we
created what we were thinking about because of one or more strong
emotions that we were experiencing at the time that we had the thought.
Focusing on our thoughts is way harder than focusing on our words.
At least if we are about to say something negative we can stop in mid
sentence and say the opposite immediately. Thoughts are more difficult
to conquer. With thoughts we have to try to not to entertain them, but be
aware of them.
If a negative thought comes into your head, do not try to ignore it. The
negative thought needs to be acknowledged and within a few seconds
after the thought you need to say something that does not entertain the
thought, but gently pushes the thought away. After that inhale deeply and
exhale slowly so that you will be in a calm relaxed state of mind.
Before attempting to practice controlling negative thoughts, you have
to think of things that you will say after you become aware of a negative
thought. So, when the thought comes you could say something like "It's
already being taken care of", "Everything is alright", "I'm not concerned
about that", or "I don't have to think about that right now". This way you
are aware of the thought, but you are calmly letting it go.
Now old habits are hard to break. That means by the end of the day you
may be exhausted from trying to control negative thoughts all day. When
you do this, you will soon realize exactly how many negative thoughts you
have in one day. It will surprise you.
After a few weeks of doing this, you will start to notice you can more easily
control your negative thoughts. After a while you will start to notice fewer
and fewer negative thoughts that come to you. You have got to realize that
your thoughts and words are running your life.
The majority of people try to change their life from the outside. They go
from job to job, relationship to relationship, without ever realizing that they
need to first change their life from inside themselves. Our words, thoughts,
beliefs and perceptions of things and situations create the life we have.
If you want to be at peace, no matter the situation in your life, start
working on your negative words, thoughts, beliefs, and the way you
look at things and situations. As you are working on negative things,
positive things need to replace the negative. Think of some positive
things to repeat to yourself.
Say these positive things to yourself even on the same days that you
are working on the negative things. Here is the key: The positive things
that you will tell yourself need to be repeated to yourself right after you
wake up in the mornings before you start your day.
Right after you wake up is the best time because you are in a more
impressionable state of mind when you first wake up. At this time of
the day you are calm and the happenings of the day haven't happened
yet. The stress of traffic, work, and coworkers hasn't happened yet.
Many will give up because they feel like this is too hard to do. They will
feel like it is just easier to let things stay the same. All of this may seem
hard and complicated, but if you really want to be happy, isn't it worth the
hard work? You can't buy love, peace, harmony, or joy. All those things
come from within.
Once you finally have control over your thoughts, you will start to notice
that things seem to go your way. People that were nasty to you before,
all of a sudden are nice towards you. Everything you need is right there,
things are no longer hard to do, good things come to you out of thin air,
money and opportunities come to you easily, etc. The biggest change
you will notice is that when something does go wrong, you will not get
angry and act crazy like you've done in the past. You will be able to focus
to where the answer will come to you that will solve your problem.
Depending on how hard you work to change, it could take six months to
several years before you will take control over your negative words, thoughts,
beliefs, and perceptions. It all depends on how determined you are for your
life to change.