our children will spread their wings and leave the nest to start living on
their own. Maybe even produce some loving grandchildren for us to enjoy spending time with.
Our children (no matter how old) will continue to need our help, in some kind
of way, as they go on their journey of life. There will be times that they fail and
there will be times that they succeed. Whatever they choose to do, we will
want to be there for them whenever they need us.
It usually isn't until children grow up and become parents themselves that they realize how much their parents cared and sacrificed for them. When they have children of their own, they can't seem to imagine how their parents managed to
do the same things (back then) that they are trying to do now. It seems like now
they can appreciate everything their parents did for them, because they are now
in the same position.
As parents get older, they will need someone to care for them the same way
they once cared for their children. Some of us go days, months and maybe
years without speaking to our parents. Either you are too busy, don't want to
be bothered, or a conflict was the cause of no communication.
Whatever the reason, we should take the time to care for our parents that are
not able to take care of themselves(Exodus 20:12). If they can no longer drive,
cook, clean, do laundry, carry groceries, then why can't we do those things for them? They did those things for us when we were children so we should be
willing to help them.
We have to have enough respect for our parents to do for them what they have done for us (Matthew 7:12). Putting them in a nursing or retirement home is just going to help them slowly deteriorate from the loneliness of not interacting with their family. There are so many parents in a nursing or retirement home and they hardly see their family members.
Even though they may make friends at a nursing or retirement home, it is not
the same as spending time with their children or grandchildren. Whatever you
do to take care of your parents, in their old age, will more than likely be done for you by your children in your old age. So if you want your children to help you when you are unable to do things for yourself, then you should start helping your parents when they are unable to do things for themselves.
If you need to put your parents in a nursing or retirement home, spending time
with them on a regular basis means a lot more to them than you think. Even if it
is just one particular day each week, you can bet they will be looking forward to
that day every single week. If you are miles away from your parents, you are just
a phone call away. Take care of those that have taken care of you!