seems to be something that's worth complaining about. No one has the
perfect life where everything is perfect. If there isn't money to complain
about, there is a spouse to complain about. If there isn't a spouse to
complain about, there is a job to complain about and etc. The list could
go on and on.
If complaining about something doesn't fix the problem, then why do we
do it? Complaining only causes us to continue to feel the way we felt when
we first encountered the problem. We are not making ourselves feel better.
We are actually making ourselves continue to feel bad. We do it because complaining is what seems to come natural to us. It's okay to talk about
the problem to come up with a solution, but a lot of us get comfortable with complaining about a problem over and over to as many people that will
Once we have complained as much as we would like, the problem is still
there. Not only do we spend time complaining, we think about the problem
over and over in our minds as well. Sometimes we worry so much that we
imagine the worst that could happen and then hope the worst doesn't happen.
You can't do what you've always done and expect to get different results.
In other words, you can't keep complaining and imagining the worst about something and expect to solve your problem.
If we spend so much time thinking about what we don't want to happen and
it does happen, then why not think about what we do want to happen so that
what we do want really would happen? Thinking and talking about what you
do want instead of what you don't want will feel weird, but that would only be because that is not what you are used to. It's kind of like expecting money
and then imagining all the things you would buy before the money has arrived.
It's the same concept. Romans 4:17 says call those things which be not as
though they were.